Personality development has to do with creating a good impression of you on others. Your personality is actually what distinguishes you from others. There are some tips you can use to develop your personality.
I will be giving you tips on how to develop a great personality. Your personality is the way people perceive you, when you walk into a gathering people can already sense the type of person you are before or after talking with you.
You do not have to leave the way others perceive you to chances when you can actually work on it to give a great impression.
When you meet people you don’t want to be perceived as someone who is insecure, proud, fearful, dull, boring and not sociable. Instead you want to be perceived as someone who is intelligent, confident, bold, charismatic, interesting and sociable.
It takes a conscious effort for you to develop a great personality, it does not just happen by chance.
Let us take a look as some personality development tips that can help you develop a great personality.
- Like yourself
When you like yourself it means you appreciate yourself for who you are and you don’t want to be like anyone else.
A lot of time you have the tendency of copying other people that you see around because you like their style but that is not the best way to develop your personality. You can learn from others but do not copy them.
Like yourself first and others are going to like you also, if you don’t like yourself nobody is going to like you too.
- Feel comfortable with yourself
You need to accept yourself for who you are, it doesn’t matter if you’re are short or tall, skinny or chubby, what matters is that you accept yourself and be the best version of yourself that you can be.
I see some people doing plastic surgery or some kind of adjustment on their body because they don’t feel comfortable with themselves. You need to know your strength and your weakness.
- Be reliable
The type of personality you want to build is the type that people can trust you to do what you are meant to do even if they are not there. That means you don’t need anyone to supervise you before you do what you need to do.
You do not want others to see you as someone they can count on when they are having challenges because you can fail them. That is a bad personality that you do not want to be associated with, so you should always be available to help others.
- Be trustworthy
Being trusted is something that you get over a period of time and not just once. Consciously or unconsciously people around you are going to test you with little things. That means if you fail in the little things they test you with they won’t trust you with bigger things but if you pass the test they give to you then they can trust that you can handle big things.
- Be responsible
Someone who is responsible is accountable for every of his actions. Everyone likes someone who can stand by his actions without having to blame anyone else. When things go wrong don’t push the blame on others instead you should accept the blame, learn from it and correct your mistakes.
The easiest thing for us to do when we fail is to push the blame on others but when you do this regularly, others will notice you and see it as a weakness.
- Have integrity
Having integrity simply means keeping to your words. That means you do the things you say you will do even when it is not convenient. Situations might come up that may not allow you to keep to your words but in such situations you should communicate early enough with the people involved about the change in arrangement.
- Have a dressing style
The important rule when it comes to dressing is that you should always dress good because the way you are dressed is the way you would be addressed by others. But you can take it a step further than dressing good, which is that you can also have your own dressing style. You should know the types of cloths that fit you and those are what you should wear regularly. Do not bother putting on cloths that do not fit you.
- Walk confidently
Walking confidently is something you need to learn because when you walk confidently others around you can feel it and it says a lot about your personality. When you walk confidently people will see you as a goal driven and a bold person. But when you walk without confidence what people see in you is timidity.
You need to practice walking because it does not come upon you automatically and when practicing you need to stand tall and keep your arms by your side.
- Get more education
There is always room for you to learn more because you definitely don’t know everything. There is also more room for you to get more degrees and certificate because you do not have all certificates already.
When you get more education people see you as a professional and this can apply to your career and other areas of your life as well. For instance if you want to be an accountant you can get the best of education available as this will make others perceive you as a professional.
- Communicate effectively
One part of effective communication has to do with your ability to listen to others and understand them. The other part of effective communication has to do with your ability to communicate messages to other in such a way that they can easily understand. This might involve using both verbal and non-verbal communication techniques.
- Love others
To love others means treating them the way you would love to be treated. The evidence that you love someone is by giving to that person. There are a lot of things that you can give to people you love, you can give your time, you can give them advice, you can give money, you can give gift and you can also render services to them.
Don’t let your past relationship affect how you relate with people around you. Sometimes you had bad experiences relating with people in the past but don’t let that affect you instead you should learn from it and be a better person.
- Don’t worry
When you worry too much it can lead to depression, high blood pressure and other similar diseases and that’s is the reason why you shouldn’t worry. Worrying means to think to the extent whereby you get anxious about things. I’m not saying you should not think but you should think of how to achieve your next goal rather than your past failures.
Even if you want to think about your past failures you should only think of correcting the mistakes you made back then.
- Don’t show fear
You will always have fear but don’t let that fear overwhelm you to the extent whereby you cannot act because you are afraid of failure. Instead you should be compelled to conquer your fears by acting.
Let others know you as someone who is not afraid of trying and making a move.
- Have rules
You need to work with rules and that means people around you should know your rules, they should know what you represent and stand for. Sometimes you might need to be flexible with your rules but still its good you have your rules because it will be able to caution people so that they can know their boundaries and when they crossing it.
- Be consistent
Being consistent means delivering good result time after time. Don’t be consistent at what is bad for example when you are consistent at coming late for meetings as that will build a bad personality, but when you are consistent at coming to meetings early, that will give you a good reputation.
- Be calm
When you are calm it means you are not putting yourself under unnecessary pressure. When faced with challenges you don’t need to get nervous or start complaining instead you should keep calm and seek for a solution.
When you complain you tend to lose your calm and people don’t really like such personality, so you should avoid such character.
- Have the passion to succeed
Whenever you meet with people always show the passion to succeed in you and people will love for it. You should have that passion to succeed at whatever you do even if you don’t like it.
Some people will tell you that they want to do what they are passionate about but I believe as individuals we can succeed at whatever we set our heart to do and this is the attitude we should have all the time.
- Be humorous
You should learn how to crack jokes, learn how to be funny, laugh at other people’s jokes and also learn to laugh at your own mistakes.
Most people don’t like someone that is boring, so if you present yourself as someone with a boring personality, most people won’t like you.
- Speak up for others
Speak for those that timid, speak for the less privilege and speak for those that cannot speak for themselves.
You should always show your hatred for injustice and fight for justice of others if the opportunity present itself.
- Smile often
One of the ways to develop a great personality is by smiling often, others notice it and like it when you smile at them. When you smile at others it has an effect on them because smiling is contagious. So you should learn how to wear a smile on your face when needed.
- Show appreciation
You can appreciate people by simply telling them thank you. For instance, let’s say you host a party, you can always tell your guest thank you or send a small note to them saying thank you and they will really appreciate it.
Another way you can appreciate people is by buying them gifts and it is also good you know the type of gift a person likes and you can get them that gift.
It might not necessarily be a big gift but it’s the gesture that goes with it that really matters
- Make friends
When you are in a social gathering you should be willing to make new friends. People need to see you as a likable person before they can like you. When you are not willing to make new friends, people will see you as a snub and they won’t like you.
It is not good enough to make new friends as you also need to maintain good relationship with your old friends because they can also influence people’s opinion about you.
- Take on challenging projects
Be willing to take on new projects if it is being delegated to you, don’t be someone who shies away from responsibilities.
Don’t be scared of setting goals for yourself, the goals you should set are the once that will challenge you and not the ones that are not challenging.
- Think positively
To develop a great personality, you should always think positively because when you think positively it helps you to become successful and everyone is attracted to a successful person.
One thing you should also avoid is speaking negative words because it can affect your personality negatively and some people will see you as a pessimist.
- Be creative
Let people see the exciting part of you, you should be able to come up with surprises and just do something new. Don’t make your activities routinely all the time as it makes others view you as a boring person.
You can also recreate what others have done by modifying and making it better than it was. Most people like and want to be around creative minds, if you are one people will definitely like you and want to be around you. So you should try to be creative.
- Look at yourself in the mirror
Personality development is not something that happens once as it is actually something you practice over time. You should take time to practice your posture by looking at yourself in the mirror and you can also practice your expression by looking at yourself in the mirror because this will help you comport yourself properly when in public places.
- Take pictures regularly
One of the things you should learn is how to pose during photo shoots. You don’t want to look at the pictures you’ve taken and you noticed that your eyes were blinking or your posture was bad.
You should also learn how to pose and smile during photo shoots because there are times in your life when you will need to take photo shoots, so it’s better you already know how to pose for photo shoots.
- Don’t argue unnecessarily
One behavior that can affect your personality negatively is when you argue with people regularly. I’m not saying you should always agree with what people say but what you should do instead is that you state your points logically and avoid arguing over the issues.
When you argue with people regularly, it starts causing hatred because in an argument one person wins while the other person loses and the person who losses might begin to have some bad feelings, so my advice is that you avoid arguments.
- Be sociable
One of the ways to develop your personality is by being sociable and this involves learning how to dance, learning how to eat using cutleries and also how to engage in conversation with strangers.
Most people like someone who can start up interesting topics and someone who is free to do lots of things like playing games, swimming, singing and other interesting activities.
- Talk knowledgeably
When discussing with others you should talk knowledgeably because this will make them respect you and it is also going to make it easy for you to influence them.
The only way you can get knowledgeable is by continuous learning and when you do this you will see that discussing knowledgeably becomes easier for you.
You should also keep up with the latest happenings around the world because it will help you to discuss with people intelligently.